Is it me or is it him?
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Mornin’ all…
Winter is upon us at last 
Well, as I said to my friend in Canada, when we get snow, it is more like dandruff by comparison… ha ha ha!!!
But my other friend in Hawaii would be frozen to the marrow just thinking about our weather… ha ha ha!!!
So, perhaps we should all become permanent travellers and just follow the sun
Funny how we place bets on whether it will snow on Christmas day, do the Aussies bet on whether it will be sunny???
Just wondering out loud
I have done most of what needs to be done and it is tucked away in the freezer The rest is stashed in the chocolate basket and I’m not mentioning where that is…
Particularly as we’ve just added some delicious handmade rum truffles to it.
Yummy, roll on Christmas day I say… ha ha ha!!!
Okay then, I’d better answer a question before I get too distracted
And please just bear this in mind…
Whenever I answer a question, I reply intuitively to each individual. So if another person asked virtually the same question, my answer might be very different.
So here goes…
Q… I took your Reiki course about 6 months ago to help my husband, who keeps having pains all over his body. I do Reiki on him but it just seems to work for a day and then the next day the pain is back again.
I don’t understand.
I thought Reiki would heal him or cure him of this. Mine doesn’t seem like it does anything to heal him. It just seems like a good band-aid.
What good is it, if it does not cure him?
Thanks…
And my answer…
A… Do trust yourself… and do know that whatever the outcome is, that it is perfect for all concerned.
You know ‘your’ Reiki works because it creates an effect, even if that is apparently short lived.
So what your husband needs to do is begin to accept responsibility for his own illness.
He cannot just sit back and expect you to ‘do’ for him. Only he has the power to cure himself.
He cannot blame you for your Reiki not healing him. You are simply sharing your energy with him… what he and his body does with that extra energy is totally up to him.
It’s his choice.
His illness creates the life he wants at the moment.
Remember… this is not your illness and it is not for you or your Reiki to cure him.
You are simply support, emotionally and energetically, whilst he heals himself.
He needs to find the cause of his constant discomfort with his life.
When, why and how often, does his pain get in the way of actual real life for him?
What is it he gets out of doing?
Why is life such a ‘pain’ for him?
What does his life experiences mirror back to him?
You get back what you put out, consciously or unconsciously… so, how big a pain is he?…ha ha ha!
Who told him as a child that he was a pain to live with?
Why does he punish himself with pain?
Pain is often linked emotionally with guilt. And I don’t mean he is guilty of something or has a guilty secret
But often as a child, we are made to feel guilty about all sorts of things without realising it.
Our bodies try to tell us things, by reflecting our inner thoughts, physically as an illness.
And our immediate surroundings and life in general will also give clues as to what is really going on…
Trust yourself… let no-one put a spark of doubt in your mind about your Reiki abilities or your love for him….
But this is also a two way experience… in fact, it is NEVER about the outer, only how you respond and experience YOUR life and circumstances.
As I’ve said before, some illnesses create a wide range of life experiences for many people, all in one go.
But if you did cure him, what would you aspire to do together or would it simply give you some freedom?
What else about him are you trying to fix or patch over?
Don’t make his being a pain, hold you back…
I can only speak the words that come to my mind and sometimes they are blunt to the point of rudeness.
But I trust that the words I speak will spark a reaction in you and him, that will help to create a new insight into what is really going on.
In the meantime, stop trying to fix him and concentrate on replenishing your own energy by using your Reiki for yourself.
This will keep you calm and serene in the midst of chaos and emotional turmoil
I would also highly recommend that your husband does his own Reiki on himself and that to find the real cause of his ‘painful lifestyle’ he uses the 10 Minute Cure CD.
Click Here To View The 10 Minute Cure
Well, I’d better wish you all a brilliant, cheerful and very MERRY CHRISTMAS now, just in case I get stuck on the sofa next week and forget to do a Sunday Chat… too many rum truffles… ha ha ha!!!
Until next year then…
Judith