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I am often asked if Reiki can help a relationship by influencing the other person concerned.
And my answer is ‘why would you want to influence someone to do something that is not in their nature or contrary to what they want?’
The only person to concern is YOU.
Square peg and round hole springs to mind. 🙂
Reiki in such a situation is best used on yourself, so you can discover why you insist on trying to make someone else change but not changing yourself. 🙂
If your boss is horrid, then move on. If your husband or wife doesn’t ‘understand you’ then change them for someone who does!
All you have to do is Love, Honour and Respect yourself enough, so you can do the same to others.
Okay, let’s get on to the question:
Q… I have been living with a pretty serious situation lately, and I was wondering if you had any suggestions as to how I could use Reiki for the best of everyone concerned.
You see, I have been living with my boyfriend for six years, and I do still love him, but I’m IN love with someone else. In fact, I’ve never felt this way about anyone before, we have so much in common and it just feels right when we are together, and he feels the same way.
My boyfriend and I have unfortunately never had this spark and chemistry, not even in the beginning of our relationship and I have learnt that it’s not really something you can create with someone. It’s either there or it’s not.
I’ve pulled away from my boyfriend a lot and even though I kind of have two men in my life, I’m actually on my own, as I can’t fully be with either, emotionally or otherwise.
This is really unfair to both of them and I hate the idea of hurting my boyfriend.
We have some problems that I could possibly turn around, but the truth is, I don’t entirely want to. My boyfriend is a great person and really deserves much better than this but I can’t just switch off how I feel.
Most importantly, I don’t want him ever knowing that (if we do split up) that he got dumped for another man.
That’s just too cruel. Also, the other man doesn’t feel much better than I do.
It hasn’t been his intention to split up couples, and neither of us was looking for this to happen. It’s just that there has been a strong connection between us right from the beginning.
So my Reiki question is: How can I best use Reiki to influence this situation to have the best possible outcome for all of us, while inflicting the least amount of pain?
Should I use visualisation techniques with Reiki and the distance symbol for bettering future circumstances?
Can I use Reiki to guide a better outcome?
I figure if there’s a good time to become my own ‘creator’ now would probably be it!
And my answer:
A… You know what to do and you don’t need me to tell you.
Your boyfriend is a Prince Charming to someone – but whilst you keep him hanging around you, he will always be a frog!
Your action is unfair and disrespectful to him.
You would not like it if you found out he only stays with you out of pity and because he doesn’t want you to feel bad.
He might be relieved to get away from such an unloving partner!
Follow your heart yes… but don’t dally with other peoples hearts.
Be honest and true…
If he hurts he will get over it in the end and be grateful you released him.
There are no accidents ever and he will also be feeling dissatisfied with your relationship.
Perhaps he is staying with you out of pity and not wanting to hurt you too… ha ha ha!
Blimey life’s a game! 🙂
Use your Reiki ONLY for yourself to give you the energy to do what must be done.
You have to move away from both of them and start afresh.
Give yourself some room to breathe and then if your new man wants, and you still want, he can come and be with you.
But that is just my opinion…
Until next week…